Aunty Baji #1

The following post is brought to you by the good folks over at rubbish TV. Sandwiched between such mullet-tastic gems as Full House (Uncle Jesse = hot, just sayinÂ’) and Roseanne there was born a shiny new talent. A Great Brown Hope, if you will. Ladies and ladas, I present to you Rubi Nicholas, AmericaÂ’s Funniest Mom:RubiNicholas.jpg

Rubi Nicholas’s mouthful of a life became her comedy routine. She’s a Pakistani Muslim with a Greek Orthodox, stay-at-home husband who converted to Islam. They live in a Denver suburb with their daughters. They fit in just fine. “Except,” she says in her stand-up routine, “every time my daughter leaves her Barbie Jeep in someone else’s driveway they call the bomb squad.”. [Link]

The Nickelodeon show consisted of six weeks of Apprentice-style comedy challenges set in a New York City penthouse. Episodes are available on the Nickelodeon website.

When she was a child she enjoyed calling her school and pretending to be her mother with excuses for absences, she says in her routine. She grew up in Pottsville, Pa., a coal region in the central part of the state. “Calling to let you know that Rubi will not be in school today. For today we celebrate the holy festival of the blind goat,” Ms. Nicholas says in a heavy Pakistani accent. And did somebody mention airports? “So a little bit about me,” Ms. Nicholas said in the final show. “I married a white guy to improve my airport cred. Yeah, and he had to become a Muslim to marry me, and he had to marry me because you know what they say. Once you go Pak … that’s right, you’ll never eat pork again.”

Walking away with a hosting gig, the chance to develop a sitcom, and a cool $50, 000, Rubi aunty managed to ruffle a few feathers as is evident from show’s message boards. Some parents found her act “too racist”, “prejudiced towards Middle Easterners and Muslims”, and insensitive towards 9/11 (huh?).

Sabrina Jalees, a Torontonian comic who is no stranger to race-based comedy, writes in her weekly Toronto Star column:

Canada’s most recent U.S. export and rising star, Russell Peters, is a great example of how successful race-based humour is when done right. One of his most popular jokes follows an act out revolving around Indians being cheap and Chinese people being stubborn. The audience welcomes these generalizations with giddy giggles ’cause a) his impressions are bang on and hilarious, and b) although being East Indian, Peters doesn’t have a Chinese bone in his body, he gets away with poking fun because everyone in the room is aware there’s nothing malicious behind the joke. The lesson? If the audience knows in its heart that you’re coming from an innocent standpoint, then you can get away with race-based comedy. And that’s why you can laugh at “racist” jokes. The best ones are an indictment against people who would say such things and actually mean them — without trying to make anyone laugh. [Link]

I agree with JaleesÂ’s yardstick mostly because when it comes to comedy I am not politically correct enough to want to give up my Richard Pryor, Sarah Silverman, Umar Sharif, and Dave Chappelle. If Nicholas can use personal experience to pull off racial comedy on a kids network then more power to her. Her future plans:

If things work out with Nick at Nite, though, she envisions her own television show as “hugely autobiographical,” a kind of “I Love Lucy” in which she and her family supply the exotic element that Ricky Ricardo provided for his daffy, red-headed wife.

Not quite sure why IÂ’m cringingÂ…ah, must be the ‘E’ bomb. Still, IÂ’d watch it.

104 thoughts on “Aunty Baji #1

  1. Wow, how original.

    Calling to let you know that Rubi will not be in school today. For today we celebrate the holy festival of the blind goat

    Oooh look at me, I make funny. I make you laugh massah, we Muslims are so silly, laugh at us!

    yawn File under: Shazia Mirza.

  2. Seriously. As Dave Chappelle pointed out on Inside the Actor’s Studio when he was asked about quitting his show, he said that there was a fine line between “Dancing and shuffling”. It seems to be a dangerous message when being brown is material for comedy by other brown people, but it’s mostly white people laughing at it. Perhaps we are fooling ourselves by thinking that “race-based” comedy is completely innocent. It might sound nativist, but if a black person makes a joke about black people, that is funny. If someone else does it, it’s racist. I feel the same way about us.

  3. hey lingus .. some homegrown talent … appearing at the annual theatre festival in Aug. Anand Rajaram (with Second city cred) does some miming in cowboys and indians and dalbir singh does a play on flight #182.

    speaking of funny girls … three cheers for rupedupe and thebarmaid

  4. dang…

    all i remember is Moose, green slime and Ross from “You Can’t Do That On Television”

    and now we’re waxing 9/11 joke propriety… barf

  5. nice! thanks for the tip, D, sounds like good times. can’t wait for august. hot heat humid concrete swimming skirts slurpees alleydrinking. and now, theatre.

    love them funny girls. and their parents too.

  6. C’mon guys, give her a break. To my ear she has sort of a funny vibe from these quotes. I don’t mind her mining her mom’s accent — Margaret Cho has paved that road and generally managed not to sell herself out. I’ll look forward to seeing her on Comedy Central or something one of these days.

    Perhaps we are fooling ourselves by thinking that “race-based” comedy is completely innocent. It might sound nativist, but if a black person makes a joke about black people, that is funny. If someone else does it, it’s racist. I feel the same way about us.

    Driver, I’m confused, isn’t she a brown person making a joke about brown people? Maybe I’m missing your point.

    I agree that race-based comedy is never truly innocent, but if done well it can shed light on ethnic and racial misunderstandings and provoke people to rethink their positions.

  7. can’t wait for august. hot heat humid concrete swimming skirts slurpees alleydrinking.

    potay-to, potah-to…
    hotheat forestcanopy sweatdripping shirtsticking musclesthrobbing joyofliving. cant wait for august. 🙂

  8. I don’t understand why the same joke (say, one that makes fun of black people), when said by a black person is OK, or considered funny, but when said with exactly the same intentions by a white/asian person is racist. How is that fair?

  9. aunty #1? let us see. will catch her next time.

    but again i am surprised russell peters gets praised. i can never understand why—this guy just collects every bigoted/poor attempt at joke that he hears and rattles it off as his own. come on, you have seen him once, you dont have to see him ever again. let us not prop up characters just because of the brown factor.

    but like driver (#5) says: no sympathies from me when RP makes jokes abt chinese. i consider it racist whether he wants to be or not.

  10. One of his most popular jokes follows an act out revolving around Indians being cheap and Chinese people being stubborn.

    You see?

  11. Wow, how original. Calling to let you know that Rubi will not be in school today. For today we celebrate the holy festival of the blind goat Oooh look at me, I make funny. I make you laugh massah, we Muslims are so silly, laugh at us!

    Last time I checked, comedians are kind of supposed to “make funny.” I dunno about you but I’ve never heard a joke like that before. I’d say it’s pretty original; we’ve all at least thought about it. I think this whole thing is being taken way too seriously. Let’s take a step back and look at the big picture here: She’s a pakistani mom who happens to be pretty funny. That’s all. Take a chill pill, doods. Go put up your Blind Goat Day tree (a joke of hers that came up a little later in her act).

  12. hmmm… humor is a form of intimacy I think. like, if a good friend asks if how many times i’ve been dropped on my head as a child in response to n she doesn’t agree with something I say, I laugh and maybe blush a smudge. when someone I don’t like says it, I breathe fire.

    similarly, I think the historic hurt Black people still feel requires that white folk maintain some level of formalty and respect.

    That’s why, I think, its ok for the race to do it — it’s a way of sharing and inviting intimacy. But, like dating a tender soul who’s been hurt before, the other should let them come around in their own time, on their own terms.

    Between desi and Chinese such a schizm doesn’t exist.. further, RP seems to build on the platform of shared immigrant expereince.. I think it’s fair game.

    now, we allll enjoy desi jokes and muslim jokes and (fill in gap) jokes and our closest friendships are built around the shared understanding that fuels humor. sharing this wealth, in small doses, with whitey is good manners.

  13. Between desi and Chinese such a schizm doesn’t exist.. further, RP seems to build on the platform of shared immigrant expereince.. I think it’s fair game.

    you are probably right abt the schism. i don’t agree with you on the shared immigrant experience though, since hardly any of RP’s jokes are particularly insightful. and if some chinese fellow were to find RP racist, i would not bother defending RP.

    besides, he is terrible. i mean, even if you dont agree abt the racism part, you have to agree he is just a parrot recycling something he has heard. how many times can one hear the same jokes over and over again, especially when they are not particularly clever or original to begin with? you may not agree with me, but in my opinion, if he did not have the minority card, he would be nowhere. his “charm” is about similar to an elephant that rides a bike, but that is just my opinion.

  14. Bytewords:

    Yes, I mostly agree with you about RP, except for one thing that he is right about: check out comment # 16.

    –CHEAP ASS DESI

  15. @cad,

    see there you prove my point again. here you are busting your a$$ off claiming to be cheap, while RP steals your mojo to earn $$$. 🙂 too many a violet was born to remain unseen and all that. what can be done.

  16. So you guys are saying if I just make jokes about how stupid and narrow minded white christians are, it would be accepted as mainstream comedy? People do it now. They get vilified by the Bill O’Reilly’s of the world. The prevailing message in American Pop culture is that it’s funny to make fun of minority groups and famous people, but insult the mainstream white suburban fools and you will probably get cancelled (Arrested Development, family guy, etc)

  17. I’m surprised no one has mentioned Dat Pham from Last Comic Standing.

    Although he won the competition, his entire routine was pretty much him speaking in his parents’ thick vietnamese accent, saying stereotypical comments regarding nail salons and bargain shopping that white people say about asians behind their backs..

  18. I’m not saying race-based humour isn’t funny. I’ve used plenty of jokes that take the piss out of desis in stuff I’ve done. But why I objected to this is it’s tailored to appeal to non-Muslims’/non-desis’ stereotypes.

    The comedienne I mentioned, Shazia Mirza, you may not all be that familiar with. She’s a British hijab’d standup (well, she wears the hijab on an erratic basis when she wants shock value). After 9/11 she found fame and has been in demand. Like most South Asians, I thought that’s cool – a Pakistani girl who has the guts to get up on stage and tell jokes. But then I heard her do an entire set and bar a few good jokes, I found her humour so lazy.

    “Oh look some Asians are turning up late – they were at home making bombs”

    White audiences loved her, why wouldn’t they? All she did was make jokes about Muslims being terrorists and fundamentalists. These were prejudices that much of her audience possessed, so they lapped it up. Asian audiences weren’t so convinced. I can respect her decision to pursue a non-traditional path, but she isn’t funny.

    I shouldn’t judge this woman here on one line, so I won’t rush to put her in the same category as Mirza, but I see a similar syndrome. Yes you are right, no reason to take this too seriously.

    Last time I checked, comedians are kind of supposed to “make funny.” I dunno about you but I’ve never heard a joke like that before. I’d say it’s pretty original; we’ve all at least thought about it.

    There’s a difference between ‘making a funny’ that cements daft stereotypes and ones that more innocently poke fun. Take Goodness Gracious Me for example, the whole thing made fun of Asians but terrorism and bizarre religious practices were never used as material. This is lowest common denominator humour.

  19. a joke is a joke is a joke, dont overanalyze it. I hope this aunty makes it to Comedy Central.

  20. White audiences loved her, why wouldn’t they? All she did was make jokes about Muslims being terrorists and fundamentalists. These were prejudices that much of her audience possessed, so they lapped it up.

    interesting point – contrasts with Jalees’ point below.

    Because, amigo, the worst part about a lot of stereotypes is that they’re often true. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not about to form my opinions of someone based on the location he or she — or anyone else in their ancestral tree — popped out of their mom’s cooch. But facts are facts: The best math student in your class was probably Asian, the man that works the till at your gas station probably sports a turban and your lawyer’s last name most probably ends with “man” “ski” or “manski” (Unless you live in Barrie, in which case, the most ethnic person in your life is most likely the Jewish dude your city was originally named after.)


    For those with limited time on their hands and undies around their ankles – I’ll summarize – BB’s point is that the stereotypes are mostly not true, Jalees’ point is that they are.
    but then we make jokes about lawyers etc. right – and the theory is that we often poke fun at those who are in such position of power that our repressed anger needs a vent through the humor
    final point before i go put out a fire – i can see why BB finds the above jokes boring – for those who have enjoyed brit humour in the past, the jokes above are toothless and flaccid. BB, any recommendations for us the unwashed masses that we can get on DVD? My tasts run to black adder and office and … well… benny hill (in my hormonally charged years … golly in the days before the internet that was as risque as it got :-))

  21. BB, I disagree.

    The funniest jokes are those that come close to an offensive truth or an offensive partial-truth.

    They send-up the logical distinction between “someone who’s x has been known to do this” and “all people who are x do this.” We hear that distinction smushed, it makes us uncomfortable, and out of our discomfort, we laugh.

    Of course, comedy deals in intangibles like mood, setting, timing and so on. But that discomfot factor needs to be there. A joke arises out of a failed expectation- in this case, the expectation that “people don’t say such things out loud.”

    The comedian’s role is to draw attention to the obscenity of people thinking such things (and getting away with it) and yet the one person who points out what everyone is thinking, in a comical context, gets flak for it.

    This kind of comedy is about one thing only: the idea that the world is NOT innocent. They didn’t invent this uninnocent world, but they have the courage to point out the messed-up ways our minds work.

    That’s how I like my comedians: as offensive as humanly possible.

  22. thwacker

    Heee.

    Now that’s funny! And part of the funniness is the totally offensive (and enjoyable) disconnect between the words “Jesus” and, well, go see for yourself.

  23. BB, I disagree.

    hey mehta – so how did you really disagree with bb – but for that one line there was no link with what bb said – you anti-plagiarist!!

  24. White audiences loved her, why wouldn’t they? All she did was make jokes about Muslims being terrorists and fundamentalists. These were prejudices that much of her audience possessed, so they lapped it up. Asian audiences weren’t so convinced. I can respect her decision to pursue a non-traditional path, but she isn’t funny.

    and

    There’s a difference between ‘making a funny’ that cements daft stereotypes and ones that more innocently poke fun. Take Goodness Gracious Me for example, the whole thing made fun of Asians but terrorism and bizarre religious practices were never used as material. This is lowest common denominator humour.

    I think BB is cool man, but damnit, I want terrorism and strange religion in my humor. That shit’s too serious to leave to politicians and academics. To “innocently poke fun” is like stopping at foreplay.

    And, also, when there’s someone out there who says “that’s not funny, it’s offensive,” there’s a pretty good bet there’s something funny about it. That’s not to say there isn’t some stupid ass comedy out there (as in any art form, there are weak links) but I just find this idea that offense and hilarity are opposites…well…funny.

  25. dhavaak, you’ve summarised me incorrectly!

    BB’s point is that the stereotypes are mostly not true, Jalees’ point is that they are.

    I’ve said several times on here that stereotypes exist because there is truth to them. That’s not what I mean at all. I just get bored with Muslim comedians who can’t see past the bomb gags. Why do we get annoyed with casting directors making desi roles terrorists and cab drivers? Because there’s more to the South Asian experience than that. I want to say again that Aunty Rubi should be discounted as she’s not a full-time comedienne, so I’m talking more generally here.

    Bill Hicks is one of my favourite comedians Papal, believe me I love offensive humour. But originality is key. Jeet’s point of a joke is a joke is a joke is nonsense. Bernard Manning, a famous racist comic here, made a career of insulting Pakis, niggers and chinks. Hahaha, funny jokes! A joke’s a joke, right? It’s offensive, so it must be good! What do you call a Paki with no sisters? A virgin! Ahahaha, so funny!

    I can bring it back to GGM again, as I’m such a fan of that show. It continually made fun of desis, how we wrap our remote controls in clingfilm, how some British Indians desperately want to be white or how Muslims and Jews are so similar but hate each other – that last one’s hardly light fare. They also took the piss out of white peoples’ attitudes to desis. It never painted a stereotyped view of Indians, but it included many Indian stereotypes.

  26. Papal, to (accurately!) summarise my view:

    Offensive is cool. But pandering to OTHERS’ stereotypes isn’t. It’s no different from the complicity Manish and others complain about – desi actors playing one-dimensional terrorists/cornershop owners.

    You don’t get black comedians saying to a white audience: “Sorry I’m late, I was stealing cars and smoking a crack pipe”

  27. You don’t get black comedians saying to a white audience: “Sorry I’m late, I was stealing cars and smoking a crack pipe”

    Oh but you should, you should! See, to me, that shit is funny. Because it creates this weird zone where whitey is laughing, but also thinking, “should I be laughing?”

    But, in general, yeah, I grab your point. You’ve put it well.

  28. Speaking of TV, how come there was nary a peep from the Sepia Mutineers on the desi that just got the boot off this season of “The Apprentice”, i.e. Michael aka. Arinash Laungani. There are at least a couple of links on the where where he talks about being of Indian and Portuguese (I wonder if that is a whitewash version of Goan)and considers himself of Asian descent.

  29. Speaking of TV, how come there was nary a peep from the Sepia Mutineers on the desi that just got the boot off this season of “The Apprentice”, i.e. Michael aka. Arinash Laungani. There are at least a couple of links on the where where he talks about being of Indian and Portuguese (I wonder if that is a whitewash version of Goan)and considers himself of Asian descent.

    i missed the show. my balls were caught in the oven grill when i was bringing out the whole roast baby.

  30. Noooooo, Dhaavak. The Aristocrats (which I was actually excited about. bob saget!) was like watching an extremely non-polite version of my parents tell one peepee poopoo joke after another with no damn punchline. I waited for a whole half hour to hear it but it never arrived!

  31. Speaking of TV, how come there was nary a peep from the Sepia Mutineers on the desi that just got the boot off this season of “The Apprentice”, i.e. Michael aka. Arinash Laungani. There are at least a couple of links on the where where he talks about being of Indian and Portuguese (I wonder if that is a whitewash version of Goan)and considers himself of Asian descent.

    I missed the show. i was putting up gandhi’s bust in the living room when i slipped and it landed on my nuts. it squeezed the jizz out of me and all over gandhi’s head.

  32. Speaking of TV, how come there was nary a peep from the Sepia Mutineers on the desi that just got the boot off this season of “The Apprentice”, i.e. Michael aka. Arinash Laungani. There are at least a couple of links on the where where he talks about being of Indian and Portuguese (I wonder if that is a whitewash version of Goan)and considers himself of Asian descent.

    I missed the show. I was getting mugged by an arab muslim when he saw my name and said, “i thought you were a jew. Sorry bro”. Then he returned my wallet and raped my ass for the next hour.

  33. actually, a joke IS a joke IS a joke if the person delivering it had every intention of making it one. now, if, by chance, I don’t find it to be funny, then, no, they did not “make a funny” (to me) — but i won’t go about denying others their reality if they think overt racial obscenities are more amusing than a tub full of tits although i might find it unfortunate — and more importantly, want to understand why a population of people find something so humorous that i find abhorrent. i mean, in that sense, comedy is a socio-demographic litmus test of sorts.

    now if someone would kindly pull my finger …

  34. Unless you live in Barrie, in which case, the most ethnic person in your life is most likely the Jewish dude your city was originally named after

    That’s funny. It makes fun of Barrie, using the negative stereotype of Barrie as a working class white town, but having spent some time in Barrie — the stereotype is based on (a lot) of truth!

    Here’s Shaun Majumder on the ethnic schtick

    shaun majumder remembers the audition well. The L.A. casting director wanted him to be, well, more East Indian.”What do you mean?” asked Majumder.

    “Kind of like Apu from The Simpsons,” said the director.

    “Sure. Where’s the door? I’m leaving. This sucks.”

    Majumder, a good Canadian boy who grew up in Newfoundland in a tin trailer, then moved to Mississauga as a teen, didn’t say that last line, but he felt it.

  35. Russell Peters, is a great example of how successful race-based humour is when done right

    say WHAT?? Oh well, some people think Govinda’s a genius, too… I guess it takes all kinds. So long as we’re laughing we’re not out making bombs. ooh, ouch, see how pathetic and easy that was. No points for Lowest Common Denominator.

    whoever mentioned GGM and their sketch topics was dead on. We don’t have to be all turbans and dots and elephants and snake-charming to get the yuks.

  36. We can all laugh at stereotypes of other races or communities; and sometimes the humor comes back on us. That is the best thing about Ricky Gervais in The Office, his stupidity and sexist and racist jokes fall back on the viewer and become a kind of critique of that kind of character. So Ricky Gervais satirises that kind of ignorant middle class white man at the same time as making comedy out of his vulgarity. It is extremely subtle and brilliant comedy – I would say a high point of British comedy in the last 20 years.

    And so it is good to be able to joke on other groups but at the same time you should not complain when someone calls you on it if you don’t do it right – for example – Chris Rock can say the hilarious thing about the difference between Black people and N***ers but we cannot – because even typing that word makes me feel dirty. It has to come from the soul of the comedian and the difference between Chris Rock and the joke that Shazia Mirza makes is I believe the difference between the audiences. Chris Rock telling that joke is in front of a black audience who understand the nuances and references – they get it because it’s him talking to them about a part of their communal experience and that is what makes it funny and insightful for them about things they know from their life. But if a white comedian makes that joke….

    And now to compare it with Bong Breaker’s example. Shazia Mirza telling the joke about Muslims/Asians being terrorists in front of a totally white audience has a completely different atmosphere and resonance than it does if she was to riff on that theme in front of a Muslim/Desi audience in the same way that Chris Rock and his material does. Put bluntly and crudely, there is a whiff of the Uncle Tom about Shazia Mirza when she tells jokes to rooms full of white people about how Muslims/Asians are all terrorists or stupid head waggling corner shop owners. She is just pandering to stereotypes statically. You don’t have to be hyper sensitive to understand that the dynamics are different. If Chris Rock told the jokes about the difference between Black people and n****rs in front of a totally white audience who were cracking up with laughter, black people would say to themselves whilst watching them rolling in the aisles – what are they really laughing at?

    It is about audience. Therein lies the difference, perhaps.

  37. Russell Peters, is a great example of how successful race-based humour is when done right
    say WHAT?? Oh well, some people think Govinda’s a genius, too… I guess it takes all kinds.

    Hehe, DD, I am convinced that those who find Russell Peters very funny also find Govinda hilarious. Last year on my visit to Dubai I put this theory to test by conducting informal survey of uncles and aunties (most were guju, punjabi, or kerelite, all were over 45) and the number were significantly in favor of a positive correlation.

    Not a surprise as both forms make heavy use of an exaggerated portrayal of stereotypes.

  38. By the way Rubi Nichol’s joke about phoning her child’s school and telling them that her daughter must be given the day off school because of ‘the festival of the Blind Goat’ is a BRILLIANT joke that mocks gently the gullibility of white people and their ignorance of Muslim/Desi culture being exploited by a slightly naughty woman who recognises that gap in knowledge and the better nature of those people to respect multi-cultural mores and at the same time she ribs Muslims/Desis and their cultural/religious ways and occasions. It’s brilliant comedy – very very funny and at the same time where can you locate who the joke is on? It’s on all the people – on Rubi for her sly nerve, on the teacher and the cluelessness, on white liberals (riffing on the strangeness to them of non Western customs – blind goat? LoL) and on Muslims/Desis and their plethora of religious taboos and occasions and sensitivities and customs.

    And she doesnt pander like Shazia Mirza.

  39. Hehe, DD, I am convinced that those who find Russell Peters very funny also find Govinda hilarious.

    Ahem I find Russell Peters hilarious but not necessarily Govinda. Well, apart from this bit in a film with Raveena Tandon a couple of years ago, where both of them are trapped inside a life/elevator, and Raveena’s repeatedly screaming “Koi hai ?! Arre koi hai ?!”, at which point Govinda (standing next to her and staring at her with an infatuated smile on his face) quietly and oh-so-innocently responds “Main houn na ?”

    My family still laughs their heads off at that sequence whenever we remember it.

    Anyway, I agree with the comments about GGM. However, one thing I have to add about Shazia Mirza was that she was deliberately pplaying on white audiences’ discomfort, The Office-style, by making deadpan jokes shortly after 9/11 such as “Hello, my name is Shazia Mirza. Well, at least that’s what it says on my pilot’s licence”.

    And so on and so forth.