SM tipster “Sirc” sent us the Village Voice review of a documentary that has been around for over a year, but seems to finally be opening to a larger audience (Oct 19, 2005 NYC, Nov 11, 2005 LA). The film is titled ‘Three of Hearts: A Postmodern Family.’ From the review:
This well-told doc follows nine years in the lives of a gay couple and the woman they invited to share their relationship. When we meet this happy threesome–Sam, Steven, and Samantha–they’re trying to get pregnant. In winning interviews spliced between suspenseful EPT tests, the assertively bourgeois strivers chat about their setup, their decision to marry, their spa business, their mix-and-match sex (“There’s never a feeling of being left out!”). Actress hopeful Samantha explains how her traditional Indian family absorbed the news.
Ummm. Wow. Trinogamy. I just imagined the sound of several desi parents dropping dead of heart attacks. Hell, I almost suffered a heart attack when I saw the trailer. That “horror-movie feeling” descended upon me. You know, it’s like when you watch a character on-screen with your eyes half covered saying, “Don’t do it. Don’t go in there. You are going to get knifed. Ooooh, they went there.” The “monkey wrench” in this case is the birth of a baby. How will it change the dynamic given that only one man is the biological father? In a perfect world without human insecurities a relationship like this could probably work. There is unfortunately no such perfect world. I don’t know how it turns out but I am pretty curious.
The filmmaker gives her quick take on the film and its coincidental political overtones:
We began filming “Three of Hearts” in August 1996, the night of Samantha’s 30th birthday party. When I got home from the first night of filming my boyfriend at the time, and later husband David Friedson told me that the senate had passed the Defense of Marriage Act that day, defining marriage for purposes of federal law as the legal union between one man and one woman as husband and wife. David pointed out that the love story I had elected to tell was highly political. And as we premiered in Toronto, the whole issue was exploding in San Francisco, Massachusetts and around the country. So even though our film is not overtly political, we take pride in the fact that it does have political overtones.
We thank Sam Cagnina, Samantha Singh and Steven Margolin for their courage in sharing with us eight years of their journey.