{"id":4632,"date":"2007-08-06T17:37:43","date_gmt":"2007-08-06T22:37:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sepiamutiny.com?p=4632"},"modified":"2007-08-06T16:44:43","modified_gmt":"2007-08-06T21:44:43","slug":"love_in_the_tim_1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/sepiamutiny.com\/blog\/2007\/08\/06\/love_in_the_tim_1\/","title":{"rendered":"Love in the time of Technology"},"content":{"rendered":"

As a sequel to my “Love in the Time of Terrorism<\/a>” post I wanted to offer up this new one based upon a Wall Street Journal article published today<\/a> titled, “‘Til Tech Do Us Part.” Although it does not specifically cite any South Asian peeps in the article, I am sure you can all agree that it is quite<\/strong> relevant to a great many of us (and probably tech-savvy SM readers more so than most). Here is the oh-so-juicy synopsis of the article:<\/p>\n\n

Joint bank account? Check. Merging the MP3 collection? Hold on a minute. Couples are struggling with just how much to combine the digital aspects of their lives. Why spouses are bickering over shared email accounts and his-and-hers blogs<\/font>. [Link<\/a>]<\/blockquote>\n\n

It’s true, it’s sooo true. This is why our parents generation just cannot understand why we sometimes (well some of us) wait so long to get married<\/strong>. It is no longer a question of simply making sure that your prospective wife comes from a good family and that at least one of her siblings is a doctor if she failed to become one herself. No. There is the MP3 collection-compatibility-issue that is a constant cloud which hangs over many of our serial dating lives. God forbid she leaves behind an Ipod in my car and I accidentally play Akon or Fergie when there are people around who might judge me. “I listen to Kings of Leon<\/a>. I swear.” What if she bookmarks the NYPost whereas I bookmark the NYTimes? Does she pay attention to RottenTomatoes.com like I do or does she just go to the movies and blindly hope for the best like some crazy free spirit? Getting to know someone and fall in love just takes a lot more research these days.<\/p>\n\n

To stay on pace during his five-mile jogging workouts, Olav Junttila keeps his iPod stocked with fast, thumping electronic music. But an unwelcome sound has been intruding on his daily runs: Britney Spears singing her bubble-gum hit “Oops, I Did It Again.”

The culprit is Mr. Junttila’s wife, Katie. Her musical taste differs, but instead of setting up a separate music library in iTunes, she mixes her Beyonc\u00c3\u00a9 and Justin Timberlake purchases in with his picks.<\/font> <\/font>“I’m going, ‘Where’d this song come from? I don’t even like this song,’ ” says Mr. Junttila, a 34-year-old New York investment banker. [Link<\/a>]<\/blockquote>\n\n

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Then, of course, the article moves on to an issue even more<\/em> troubling than music and one that I lie awake at nights stressing about. Yep. Blogs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The growth of blogging is responsible for many marital flare-ups<\/font>. James Griffioen and his wife, Sara Woodward, decided to start a blog together after they had their first child. They were inspired by other couples who were blogging about their newborns.

They agreed to give each other veto power over posts<\/font>, which he exercised when she wanted to shout out into the blogosphere about his failure to do the dishes. “That’s a real sensitive issue,” says Mr. Griffioen, 30, who cares for the couple’s 2-year-old daughter at their home in Detroit. Readers of the site, sweetjuniper.blogspot.com, would have blown it out of proportion, he says: “They’re going to turn it into this whole thing of how I don’t keep up my end of the relationship…” [Link<\/a>]<\/blockquote>\n\n

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Sweet Jezzus. Abhi’s first rule of Blog Club is: NEVER mix blogging with pleasure (unless you have a weak will and it just happens). You would be freaking nuts to blog with your husband\/wife. <\/p>\n\n

“Honey, what did you think of my post on our<\/strong> blog? It was the bomb, right?”<\/p>\n\n

“Ummmm.”<\/p>\n\n

I wonder, just how common is this sort of digital angst among our readers? Here are some anecdotes. I know that SM contributing writer Cicatrix and Mr. Cicatrix have left comments on the same thread using different computers in different rooms at the same time. I also know that on a couple of occasions a commenter has emailed us because we banned their significant other\/roomate who they share a computer with and they wanted us to lift the ban so as not to punish the innocent one (who still wanted to comment) too.<\/p>\n\n

The bottom line is that I think it is okay to take your time and really understand if your blogs and your mp3 collections (we didn’t even talk about TiVO) are compatible before committing. Forever.<\/p>\n\n

Note: For those interested there is a podcast of this story<\/a> at WSJ.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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