{"id":2835,"date":"2006-01-12T14:37:13","date_gmt":"2006-01-12T19:37:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sepiamutiny.com?p=2835"},"modified":"2006-01-13T16:44:43","modified_gmt":"2006-01-13T21:44:43","slug":"blood_marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/sepiamutiny.com\/blog\/2006\/01\/12\/blood_marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Blood marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The idea of paying blood money to settle murders in rural Pakistan reaches its logical conclusion, since women are still considered nothing more than chattel:<\/p>\n\n<blockquote>A village council in Pakistan has decreed that five young women should be abducted, raped or killed for refusing to honour childhood &#8220;marriages&#8221;&#8230; The marriages were part of a compensation agreement ordered by the village council and reached at gunpoint after the father of one of the girls shot dead a family rival. The rival families have now called in their &#8220;debt&#8221;, demanding the marriages to the village men are fulfilled. [<a href=\"http:\/\/www.telegraph.co.uk\/news\/main.jhtml?xml=\/news\/2005\/11\/22\/wdebt22.xml&#038;sSheet=\/news\/2005\/11\/22\/ixworld.html\">Link<\/a>]<\/blockquote>\n\n<p>&lt;<\/p>\n\n<p>p>Shall the sins of the father be visited upon the <strike>sons<\/strike> daughters?<\/p>\n\n<blockquote>The Human Rights Commission of Pakistan condemned the &#8220;barbaric custom of vani&#8221;, &#8211; the tradition of handing over women to resolve disputes &#8211; and called on President Pervez Musharraf to enforce a ban. Last year a three-year-old girl near Multan was betrothed to a 60-year-old man in a similar settlement. [<a href=\"http:\/\/www.telegraph.co.uk\/news\/main.jhtml?xml=\/news\/2005\/11\/22\/wdebt22.xml&#038;sSheet=\/news\/2005\/11\/22\/ixworld.html\">Link<\/a>] \n<p><span class=pullquote style=\"padding-right: 8px; padding-left: 8px; FONT-WEIGHT: normal; font-size: 16pt; float: right; padding-bottom: 5px; margin: 20px; width: 259px; line-height: normal; padding-top: 5px; FONT-STYLE: normal; height: 165px; text-align: right; FONT-VARIANT: normal\">Her father had killed someone, and she had to marry a member of the victim&#8217;s family<\/span>Her father had killed someone and she had to marry a member of the victim&#8217;s family as compensation under a centuries-old custom of Pakistan&#8217;s ethnic Pashtun tribes. Known as swara, the custom calls for a girl to be given away in marriage to an aggrieved family as part of settlement for murder perpetrated by one of her relatives&#8230; the custom is still prevalent in the semi-autonomous tribal regions where Pakistani law seldom applies and where jirgas, or councils of tribal elders, settle disputes the old way&#8230; &#8220;<font style=\"BACKGROUND-COLOR: #ffd2bd\">Sons are never given away in settlement<\/font> because we women folk are easy target&#8230;&#8221; [<a href=\"http:\/\/www.alternatives.ca\/article1231.html\">Link<\/a>]<\/blockquote>\n\n<!--more-->\n\n<blockquote>Once married their in-laws often treat them with cruelty seeing them as symbols of the original hurt done to their family&#8230; In another vani case another village council decreed that a young woman should not only marry a man to compensate for a murder but that her three brother-in-laws should rape her on her wedding night before her new husband &#8211; an obscene and degrading sentence that was carried out. [<a href=\"http:\/\/www.theasiannews.co.uk\/heritage\/s\/207\/207379_theyre_girls_not_goats.html\">Link<\/a>] \n<p>Most girls married under swara spend their lives in torment because their in-laws consider them symbols of a rival family, activists say. &#8220;They are treated like enemies,&#8221; said Samar Minallah, an anthropologist who produced a documentary highlighting the plight of women married under swara&#8230; [e]ntitled &#8220;Swara &#8211; A Bridge over Troubled Waters&#8221;&#8230; [<a href=\"http:\/\/www.alternatives.ca\/article1231.html\">Link<\/a>]<\/blockquote>\n\n<p>&lt;<\/p>\n\n<p>p>The arrangement leaves girls widows at early ages and unmarriageable thereafter, since the sum of a human being&#8217;s intelligence and wisdom is reduced to an opened soft drink can. The girls&#8217; father has stood up for them:<\/p>\n\n<blockquote>He added that his family had already paid blood-money to the aggrieved party. &#8220;I have refused to give into the council&#8217;s request as it is un-Islamic. <font style=\"BACKGROUND-COLOR: #ffd2bd\">I cannot hand over my girls like goats<\/font> to marry these illiterate boys,&#8221; he said. [<a href=\"http:\/\/www.telegraph.co.uk\/news\/main.jhtml?xml=\/news\/2005\/11\/22\/wdebt22.xml&#038;sSheet=\/news\/2005\/11\/22\/ixworld.html\">Link<\/a>]<\/blockquote>\n\n<p>&lt;<\/p>\n\n<p>p>The girls themselves are taking refuge in the eternal desi symbol of sacrifice, immolation:<\/p>\n\n<blockquote>&#8220;If the government does not help us, we will commit suicide,&#8221; says Abda. &#8220;We will burn ourselves alive to protest vani.&#8221; [<a href=\"http:\/\/news.bbc.co.uk\/1\/hi\/world\/south_asia\/4499028.stm\">Link<\/a>]<\/blockquote>\n\n<p><span class=related-posts-heading>Related posts:<\/span> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sepiamutiny.com\/sepia\/archives\/001729.html\">Punishing the Victim: Rape Victim Must Marry Rapist<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sepiamutiny.com\/sepia\/archives\/001798.html\">Punishing the Victim II: Hindus do it too<\/a>, <span class=related-posts><a href=\"http:\/\/www.sepiamutiny.com\/sepia\/archives\/002211.html\"><span class=related-posts-title>Diplomatic finesse<\/span><\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sepiamutiny.com\/sepia\/archives\/001145.html\"><span class=related-posts-title>Tribal &#8216;justice&#8217;<\/span><\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sepiamutiny.com\/sepia\/archives\/000450.html\"><span class=related-posts-title>The Mukhtaran Bibi case<\/span><\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sepiamutiny.com\/sepia\/archives\/001720.html\">Blaming the Victim<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sepiamutiny.com\/sepia\/archives\/001751.html\">Mukhtar Mai Update<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sepiamutiny.com\/sepia\/archives\/002412.html\">Mukhtar Mai Update Part II<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sepiamutiny.com\/sepia\/archives\/001216.html\">&#8220;I Decided to Fight Back&#8221;<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sepiamutiny.com\/sepia\/archives\/001752.html\">Stand up for Mukhtaran Mai<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sepiamutiny.com\/sepia\/archives\/002223.html\">Want to yell at Mushie?<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sepiamutiny.com\/sepia\/archives\/002302.html\">Dear Mushie: Shut up<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sepiamutiny.com\/sepia\/archives\/001757.html\">Join the chant<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The idea of paying blood money to settle murders in rural Pakistan reaches its logical conclusion, since women are still considered nothing more than chattel: A village council in Pakistan has decreed that five young women should be abducted, raped &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/sepiamutiny.com\/blog\/2006\/01\/12\/blood_marriage\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[10],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/sepiamutiny.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2835"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/sepiamutiny.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/sepiamutiny.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/sepiamutiny.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/sepiamutiny.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2835"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/sepiamutiny.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2835\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/sepiamutiny.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2835"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/sepiamutiny.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2835"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/sepiamutiny.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2835"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}