The following video has already been viewed 3.2 million times on YouTube, so it hardly needs a link from me. But what the hell, it’s funny:
Penn Masala have a new CD out, and they were recently featured on NPR. But why do I have the feeling that they will now be best known — and beloved — by college students everywhere for “The Facebook Skit”?
To keep in touch with people you already know. If you want to meet people for romantic interests, I’d recommend match.com or shaadi.com.
and I don’t think you should underestimate Facebook/youth. I get like 5 million invitations to various political-themed events/groups every day (e.g. the show your solidarity with the Jena Six by wearing black day, the show your solidarity with the monks in Burma by wearing red day, etc.). And the Posted Items and Messaging features make it pretty easy to get a message out, and the Events feature makes it easier to organize protests or whatevs.
If Facebook is only for keeping in touch with people you already know and for informing each other of noble events, then why the “A-list” for hotties and such?
Sorry, I don’t buy it. Like most internet connects, the underlying theme is “hooking up” with someone.
Well considering that you’re in your 30s and I’m in college (the demographic that Facebook was originally created for), I apparently have some explaining to do…
The hotties list that Jason Bourne mentions are facebook groups found within most school networks, stuff like ’10s of ’10’ or some shit like that. Unless group membership must be approved by the creator (rare), mostly anyone can join these groups. So consequently most of these groups are full of people who think they’re h0t shit (regardless of whether they actually are or not), and there are many hot people who are NOT in such groups because they think they’re just kind of dumb.
I really don’t think the underlying theme of Facebook is ‘hooking up.’ I think that for nearly all the college students I know, it’s really actually keeping in touch with friends, whether through writing on each other’s walls, inviting each other to events, putting up photo albums, etc.
I really don’t think the underlying theme of Facebook is ‘hooking up.’
It really doesn’t matter what you think the underlying theme of Facebook, or who the original demographic is for. It’s obvious the demographic changed by so many companies blocking the site altogether.
As far as the underlying theme, it’s really for the inventors to say, and they pretty much want anyone to use it for whatever they want, just as long as they use it. and it runs the gamut.
What is the difference between that and seeing some cute guy you like in class or wherever and then following him discreetly for a few minutes to see where he hangs out so that you can “accidently” bump into him at some later point in time
There is no difference, most women will turn hypocrite and try to argue out some difference, when none truly exists.
I think its interesting that a younger user such as nala has a fixed notion of facebook usage vs ‘someone in their 30s’ when most VCs believe the opposite is true; early adopters generally being more adventurous.
HMF- yeah the demographics have changed, but I was talking about within the context of a college campus, since ‘Jason Bourne’ is an undergrad too. My point was, while all college students I know may use facebook to strengthen relationships with people they only tangentially know (like, hey! you’re in my French class), no one uses it to hit on complete strangers. also, i’ve lurked on SM for a while so i’m familiar with how you think women are hypocrites, and my break ends today so i’d rather not get into this argument. All I’ll say is, it’s generally women’s past experiences that make them wary of men staring at them from afar or following them up close.
Most guys browsing facebook don’t stop at just the face.. and this is where the problem lies.
coincidentally, i once heard the facebook founder say he only hires young people, apparently unaware of anti-discrimination laws. he argued they are simply smarter, more creative, and easier to train. and he mentioned something about all the chess champions being young and great scientists, writers, etc doing their best work in their 20’s.
but i have noticed, in the VC world, old people acting young: learning a new language, going back to school in their 40’s, taking painting lessons, etc…in an attempt to stave off the dementia. also dressing young. no suits. its a quirky world.
well…thinking about how i used to think in college, my underlying reason to “getting to know someone i already know tangentially” like “hey, your in my french class” was
“hey your in my french class” (and kinda h0t) “lets get to know each other”
“but i have noticed, in the VC world, old people acting young: learning a new language, going back to school in their 40’s, taking painting lessons, etc…in an attempt to stave off the dementia. also dressing young. no suits. its a quirky world”
My point was, while all college students I know may use facebook to strengthen relationships with people they only tangentially know (like, hey! you’re in my French class), no one uses it to hit on complete strangers
That’s all well and good, but if someone were to do it for that purpose, it’s no different than Tara’s female real-life example of doing the same thing.
My uncle’s a partner at Kleiner Perkins the stories I could tell :)…
spooky, i just got off the phone with them and am in the middle of an e-mail to them (not a desi partner though).
What does “VC” mean?
for everyone else it means “venture capitalist”. for me it means “viet cong”
virile communists
vasectomy clippers
spooky again. shouldn’t you be dialing for $$’s puli
vaseline consumers
if i did what i was supposed to, i would never be on SM. couldnt let that happen.
and…if i wasnt on SM, i couldnt “stalk” you all…
puli quotes himself in 120. commenturbation.
Is this really “acting young” or just plain living life?
I always find it odd when I visit family in India that most of the 35 year olds carry on as if they are 60+. No life outside of work and home, work and home. For many of the women it’s just home, home, home. It’s as if the very essence of vitality has been zapped right out of them. They are always perplexed by why I want to do and experience so much when I’m there.
“spooky, i just got off the phone with them and am in the middle of an e-mail to them (not a desi partner though).”
commenturbation. hard for others to watch. fun for me. completely natural.
yes, its living life. and its important to do these seemingly trivial things as one gets older, ie learning things that don’t necessarily have a practical value. it keeps the mind active. VC’s understand this since the job entails destroying old companies who cannot think out of their box and capturing their market.
which is why the profile look like this. you won’t see that at jpmorgan.
ahh…the life. i feel like the WAMU bankers box.
sorry to interrupt the wanksteration, but…
just to clarify… do you mean that tara’s female real-life example is similar to using facebook to ‘strengthen relationships with people they only tangentially know’ or to ‘hit on complete strangers’ (which is what JB was doing)? if it’s the former, i kind of agree, and only ‘kind of’ because i don’t think that any of these examples are EXACTLY the same as each other.
apparently y’all think i came down too hard on JB. well i guess i can’t know how ‘creepy’ his messages to these girls really were, but obviously they were put off by whatever he said. i get the sense that it has more to do with JB not knowing how to maneuver that well socially than with malice (though i do think his comments on this thread were enlightening of his immaturity, and i’m not really surprised that girls are put off by him if he can’t even appear to seem like he’s approaching them for a reason other than just thinking they’re hot and wanting to get laid). what put me off most though, was his sense of entitlement, like he’s entitled to ‘get’ lots of hot young white girls, and anyone else is ‘washed up.’
dmn it. i am ENTITLED to nubile whyte chyx! i am also ENTITLED to throngs of adoring fans. *puli grumbls and gets back to his loosery job
do you mean that tara’s female real-life example is similar to using facebook to ‘strengthen relationships with people they only tangentially know’ or to ‘hit on complete strangers’
It could be either, it’s a fine line really. If some chick sees a cute guy on campus, or in class, you could argue they are complete strangers, or tangentially know each other, just by virtue of being in the same class or school, right?
(though i do think his comments on this thread were enlightening of his immaturity, and i’m not really surprised that girls are put off by him if he can’t even appear to seem like he’s approaching them for a reason other than just thinking they’re hot and wanting to get laid
Are you suggesting that men lie about their intentions when dealing with women? Whatever happened to being honest? whatever happened to being yourself? Are you suggesting men cloak their intentions?
stalking is wrong. all you have to do, in order to aviod being a stalker, is follow these simple 3 rules:
I think it just snowed in hell.
Is somebody drinking the Pity Whine today? We really would be in trouble, however, if all the unattractive failures in the world were actively stalking women. Thankfully, this isn’t the case. We do, however, have an excess of people who blame subjectively delineated categories for their failures with potential partners. Much like the average person will blame the economy for their fiscal woes.
this is hilarious. i wonder what james bond and george smiley are going to say about jason bourne when they meet at the pub tonight.
Andrea Dworkin is shivering
are all the hedge fund guys into bondage?
shrugs I didn’t find it humorous at all. But on the upside it was nice to hear Pennmasala again.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=dHi-ZcvFV_0
HMF- I’ve never said any of the bolded, so I don’t understand your faux indignation. I can’t speak for other female SM commenters or other women in general, but I tend to just call it like I see it. I’m not suggesting that men lie about their intentions… I’m just saying that obviously there’s a reason why ‘Jason Bourne’ isn’t getting any!! Also, there’s a difference between being honest and going up to a girl and saying ‘I want to fuck you and that’s it.’ I don’t think I’m qualified to really discuss this ‘how men approach women’ thing anyway, since I’ve never really ‘dated’-all my relationships have been friendships that turned into something else, and most college kids don’t really date anyway I think. I’ve derailed the thread enough, so I’m going to bow out. I’m not even going to touch what Manju said, but I’m glad HMF & Manju found something to finally agree on!
well i don’t know about george smiley, but i bet james bond thinks that jason bourne is an idiot for actually spending his time not relying on hi-tech gadgets and actually being a good spy, instead of bedding whoever he sees. …hm, maybe jason bourne and SM’s ‘Jason Bourne’ do have something in common after all.
For the record, I’m with nala on this one. Maybe we’re in the same general demographic, maybe we’re not. There is a difference between wanting to get to know someone you’ve MET face-to-face versus someone you have never met save by looking them up on the internet. I definitely know guys who had seen a girl in a neighboring dorm and then wanted to “bump into” them by hanging around where they lived. In my opinion, that absolutely toed the border of “stalking” as far as I’m concerned.
I also think folks are using a really inappropriate sense of the word “stalk.” Stalking is not following a girl around like a puppy, it is really severe and shouldn’t be trivialized so off-handedly.
so, this girl i like said on facebook that she loved stockings, and was looking for someone who would pique her interests. but she’s a bad speller, so i figure all she wants is for me to stare into her window when she changes her clothes, snoop on her e-mail, and follow her all over the place. whaddya know, she gets all upset and sics the cops on me. if she didn’t want it, why did she put it on her profile just for me to see?
signed, austin powers
so, do facebook employees poke members they like, just look them up and find them in IRL (yes, i’m with it), or just date other employees?
WHOA! I thought such people only existed in the piss-take world of youtube videos…weird that people would actually admit to being a Facebook Stalker in a public forum.
Jason Bourne, glad you’re at a university far far away…
I think that secretly though for some girls, not being considered in the ‘Uni’s Hottest chix’ etc lists would be a mild disappointment even though they are objectifying and shallow, kind of like the Bridget Jones-esque disappointment when walking past a construction site and no one wolf whistles…
according to this video, I have 5 Facebook stalker invites. Although the uber-sad thing is that they don’t even go to uni in the same country, so the hours they spend scouring for people to add…eugh.
question, whats one to do if they find someone attractive but have no pretext other than that to introduce themselves? isnt it normal to try and find out a little about that person so that you have a better chance of bumping into them and making something happen? jason bourne wasn’t so creepy and stalkerish as much as he just lacks game. poking random “hot” girls with no pretext online is just hopeless. btw, my stalker was the real deal and didn’t just follow me around like a puppy. there were numerous phone calls where no one spoke on the other line. literal stalking from a distance when i was unaware of her presence, and supposedly she’d found a photo of me and kept it. she even had some morbid ritual wherein she would play “our” song and talk to me. i found out later that this went on for years, meanwhile i had barely spoken three sentences to this person ever. all i’m sayin is that if i were attracted to this person, i may have given it a chance. danger is the spice of life. i would’ve carried pepper spray and only accepted drinks i ordered myself..
Nala:
your statement says:
“and i’m not really surprised that girls are put off by him if he can’t even appear to seem like he’s approaching them for a reason other than just thinking they’re hot”
to me, this reads you believe “appearing to seem” a certain way is more beneficial than being who you actually are. This is very close to cloaking one’s intentions, which is a certin level of dishonesty. is it not?
“I’m just saying that obviously there’s a reason why ‘Jason Bourne’ isn’t getting any!!”
See comment #130.
Also, there’s a difference between being honest and going up to a girl and saying ‘I want to fuck you and that’s it.’
The two are uncorrelated. However, the former might entail the latter, when that is the case you are indeed suggesting the male shouldn’t be honest.
Camille et al,
I know someone exactly like this and he is a pest. He chats innocently to unsuspecting girls and then asks them out a number of times, not taking ‘no’ for an answer. Often he will happen to see a girl he thinks is attractive, but whom he has never met, and start following her around and asking her out. He did this to a couple of friends of mine as well. One girl who used to be his lab partner and whom he kept asking out again and again even though she made it clear she wasn’t interested. I finally had to rescue her by making her my lab partner instead, so she wouldn’t be partnered with him again. Then there was another whom he started following around during our college study trip, to a point that a few tall tough mates had to intervene to make him stop. He was and still is under the delusion that she reciprocated his ‘feelings’. The guy has no social skills, lives at home, is almost 30 and has been a student for 7 or 8 years, but never even got his first-year degree.
Point being, there is nothing ‘charming’ about this behaviour or the Facebook equivalent. I bet that if girls are put off by this ‘Jason Bourne’ character on this thread he really isn’t a far cry from the person I just described above. I find it quite disturbing that some folks(not just men) think such a person is indulging in harmless fun and women who find it upsetting are merely being ‘hypocritical’.
I must confess that I’m simultaneously spooked and disarmed, nala of comments 3, 5, 8, 24, 25, 27, 30, 37, 46, 81, 83, 84, 85, 100, 101, 103, 106, 127,and 138 🙂 The spookiness lies in that you sound sooooooo young, especially when you say this (emphases mine):
and this:
They remind me of myself when I was 18 (with the subtle difference that re the prospect of being stalked by a girl in college, I used to be terrified by whether I’d be able to say no to showing her my physics homework). I hope you will, in the years to come, retain your zest for commenting. But I also hope that, over time, you will be a mite slower to judge!!
As for what motivates the last, admittedly unsolicited, bit of advice (and this is to all readers of this thread): has it occurred to anyone else that comment #1 is Jason Bourne‘s idea of a good joke. (S)He has yanked our collective chains, and might at this very moment be sitting back with his(her) favourite cup of coffee and savouring the effect. . . !
this guy is horrible. he broke the second rule of stalking.
Concerning:
if only Manju (at #130) had called them “rules” The Three Laws of Stalking (as in The Three Laws of Robotics), he’d have by now been famous 😉 Maybe there’s still time . . .
He chats innocently to unsuspecting girls and then asks them out a number of times, not taking ‘no’ for an answer. Often he will happen to see a girl he thinks is attractive, but whom he has never met, and start following her around and asking her out.
Ah but Meena, fem-aggeration strikes again!
Where did Jason Bourne say anything about following, excessive hankering, obsessing, all the things you described here? Notice how you effortlessly
graft onto this:
Thanks for the link, Amardeep! Haha its so true, I searched my university facebook groups for “perfect 10’s” “The A-list” “Hottest girls at __ university”…hoping I would bump into one of those chicks on campus or in class
with being a “pest” and “not taking no for an answer”
And for the record, the hypocrisy charge was for anyone who castigated this facebook behavior, but found no harm in a girl “strategically” situating herself to be near someone she’s finds attractive, even if she’s only seen him “tangentially” which in my book constitues being a stranger.
I agree the facebook “stalking” described by JB is useless, but by no means harmful or threatening.
I would like to state for the record, that I am stalking everyone on SM. Puli is EVERYWHERE.