A depressing South Asian story

The Washington Post features the plight of a Pakistani American family today. The tale is a real downer so for all of you who like depressing books by South Asian authors (oh wait, thats all of them) read on:

On Wednesday morning, as most of the country was either reeling from the election or celebrating it, a slim, long-faced youth named Syed Shah sat in his family’s darkened living room in front of a blue hard-shell American Tourister suitcase and contemplated what it means to be a man.

The suitcase was brimming with papers. “Work Permit,” said one manila folder, in handwritten English and Urdu script. Beside it, photocopies of expired diplomatic visas were strewn across the pistachio-green carpet. He must figure out what to do with these documents so his family can keep working legally in the United States.

Why the great burden on this teenager? His father, according to the article, was shot in a robbery while delivering Pizzas. That was one of three jobs his father held. This is sad of course but you have probably heard stories like this before. Here is what is different though about his father’s story though:

He spoke four languages and had been a diplomat with the Pakistani government, living with his family in Iran and Syria before coming here to take a post with the Pakistan Embassy. When the posting ended unexpectedly and the government wanted to move him to another country, he said no.

“He said, ‘My kids are now in school here, and we don’t need to disturb their education,’ ” said Jafar Hussein, a longtime family friend who has been helping sort their affairs. Instead, Musharaf left his job at the embassy and found other work — delivering The Washington Post and the Washington Times in the early morning, working at 7-Eleven, Kmart and later Pizza Hut in the daytime and evenings. He was always scanning the classifieds for better jobs, and he joked about attending college with his kids.

Now the only thing running through my head is “what a waste.” This guy was delivering Pizza when he could have been recruited to help in the War against Islamic Fundamentalism. He spoke four languages and was an expert on Iran an Syria. Obviously I don’t know if he’d even be willing to help the government if he got an offer and of course he wasn’t a citizen yet, but it just strikes me as such a shame that many people have to start at the bottom rung of the employment ladder when coming from abroad even if skilled in something the U.S. might need. The article depresses me further as it ends with something all too familiar to any son.

Now the son must take a crash course on all the father knew — including driving and caring for the family car. “He wouldn’t give the key to me,” Shah recalled. “He said, ‘It’s dangerous — you drive too fast. Where you need to go, I’ll drop you.’ ” But now the Toyota Camry his father used for pizza deliveries belongs to Shah. He pays the car insurance, $200 a month, and he takes the Camry in for repairs, which this week cost the family $700.

10 thoughts on “A depressing South Asian story

  1. Would you trust a former Pakistani diplomat to help the USA fight the War against Islamic Fundamentalism? Of course, not every Pakistani is a fundie, but I would be concerned about the bloke passing along tactics, methods, and sources to his ex-Pak government contacts.

    But that’s besides my point – this is still a very, very sad story. The theme of this story has been played out several times in the South Asian community, and undoubtedly will continue to be repeated in the future.

    I wish that we South Asians were more organized in taking care of our own when tragedies like this happen. I think that simple things like helping the family out with rides to the grocery store, or even with some of their bills, could go a long way. Shame on us for not being organized 🙁

    (On second thought, I guess this helping role is usually played by the family’s temple/mosque/church/synagogue… but surely a better job could be done?)

  2. I wonder why this was not called a “hate crime”. Perhaps it is because the ethnicities of the assailants were all too predictable?

    See here:

    Musharaf Shah, 47, was shot and killed Sept. 16 during a robbery in Old Town. One of the defendants is 26-year-old Metkel Alana of Capitol Heights, Md. The other is 20-year-old Antowaun Lynch of Fairmont Heights, Md….

    and just in case you thought the name etymology wasn’t conclusive:

    Moments later, Fairfax County police observed a black Subaru and gave pursuit just south of the City on the George Washington Parkway. The vehicle first traveled south and then turned around and entered the City. The suspects, both black males, abandoned the vehicle in the 900 block of South Alfred Street and fled on foot. The suspects were eventually caught in the 300 block of North Saint Asaph Street and taken into police custody.

    And here’s another one – the murder victim was only 19, and they killed him for pizza:

    Harvinder Kumar a night manager at the Round Table Pizza on Springs Road, was delivering three extra-large pizzas to an address on Wilshire Avenue Monday night when he was shot several times, according to police. Police are looking for Robert Allen Nelson Jr., also known as BJ, described as 21-year-old black man 5 feet 10 inches tall, weighing 149 pounds with brown eyes and black hair. Kristopher McCray described as a 20-year-old black man 5 feet 8 inches tall weighing 150 pounds with black hair and brown eyes, is also wanted. Police are also looking for 16-year-old boy from Vallejo.

    one might also read about cabbies in NY:

    For several years, being a cab driver was more dangerous than being a police officer. Nevertheless refusing service on the basis of race is not only illegal…Having said all that, this past Sunday, I took a cab to LaGuardia. On the way, I spoke to the driver, a young black man, originally from Ghana, but has been a US citizen for 14 years. He complained bitterly about Mayor Giuliani’s crackdown saying: “Mayor, I am a black man, and have been a taxi driver for three years. I often don’t pick up blacks on the street because many don’t pay when I take them to Harlem.” He then described picking up a black woman at Houston Street going to Coop City in the Bronx where she ran from the cab, leaving him with an unpaid $ 30 fare. He said that in three years this had happened many more than 10 times. I asked if he had ever been held up. He said no. His story had the ring of truth. No matter, if you can’t abide by the law, get out of the business. Yes, life is unfair.

    or :

    Among the incidents reported are, in front of Lafayette HS last June, the Asian bashers – armed with chains and martial-arts sticks – broke the 17-year-old’s right arm, forcing him to miss final exams and attend summer school to catch up. His father, Sajjad, claimed it was a bias attack. Other incidents the Post reported included: * A boy of Chinese descent was allegedly assaulted and robbed by an unidentified black male student in a stairwell on April 5. The victim was punched in the jaw and his watch and wallet stolen. * A student of Southeast Asian descent charged that a black student threatened him with a gun in the cafeteria last March. * A student from the Middle East was allegedly harassed by four black students outside the building last March. They called him “A-rab” before slapping him in the face. * A student of Middle Eastern descent said he was threatened with a knife by three unidentified blacks in a stairwell on April 2. * Two students of Middle Eastern descent were robbed at gunpoint by a former Lafayette student at a playground across from the school on June 1. The suspect was arrested. * A Bangladeshi girl was knocked unconscious when two black female students assaulted and robbed her on the subway after dismissal on Oct. 2. The attackers were arrested. * A female Chinese immigrant student was punched by a black male student after he pulled her hair on Oct. 11. The attacker was expelled, a source said. * A boy of Chinese descent was allegedly attacked in a stairwell by two black students in October while another was hospitalized after getting smashed in the head from behind with a combination lock on Nov. 16. One 15-year-old Chinese immigrant student robbed outside the school entrance told The Post, “Asian students are getting picked on because they don’t speak English.”

    I could go on and on, but I think I’ve made my point. It is not whites who are committing these crimes. If it were, I’m sure that abhi & manish would be outraged – and I would be alongside them.

    Asian americans – east & south – are victims of violent crime. But it isn’t whites who’re doing the victimization…which is why the myopic focus on “hate crimes” by whites is exactly backwards and a pluperfect example of displaced anger.

  3. But that’s besides my point – this is still a very, very sad story. The theme of this story has been played out several times in the South Asian community, and undoubtedly will continue to be repeated in the future. I wish that we South Asians were more organized in taking care of our own when tragedies like this happen

    I think the focus should be on preventing these tragedies, by giving the police the ability to do their job without bringing up bogus complaints about racial profiling. The fact is that 89.2% of violent crime victims in New York City (to take one example) reported their assailants to be either black or Hispanic. Blinding yourself to that reality by calling cops “racist” will cause more of these all-too-preventable deaths.

    How ridiculous to focus on ultra-rare “hate crime” – defined exclusively as those committed by whites – when attacks by blacks & Hispanics happen on a far more regular basis. Why is it that only the enormously infrequent attacks by whites get any press and any tut-tutting? I know that guilty white leftists have their own issues here, and would rather flee the city or wall themselves into fortified apartments than acknowledge the truth…but why exactly should desi leftists keep silent when the victimizers have a pretty consistent ethno-statistical profile?

    Why is it an occasion for political action & organization when a white guy merely insults someone, but only a “tragedy” when a desi is outright murdered by a black or Hispanic?

  4. It is not whites who are committing these crimes. If it were, I’m sure that abhi & manish would be outraged – and I would be alongside them.

    GC: If you can’t accurately remember my views, stop using my name.

    “hate crime” – defined exclusively as those committed by whites

    The definition of hate crime does not distinguish perpetrator’s race.

  5. Manish,

    I believe GC should definitely know better than to engage in the ole, “Where’s the outrage from [fill in the blank]?” But while the definition of hate crimes makes no mention of the assailant’s ethnicity, what has been the actual practice? While there has been heightened awareness about possible profiling and hate crimes directed at South Asians after 9/11 – I was really miffed when the same activists ignored the whole cabbie-black passenger brouhaha in NY a couple of years ago. All sorts of racial accusations were being leveled at South Asian cabbies, and I believe the only one who spoke up in their defense was the Indian-born head of the cabbie association. I cannot remember any South Asian activists (most of whom are American born and middle class) coming to their defense, explaining that their actions are more likely resulting from rational calculations about risk, rather than racial animus. From where I sit, it sure seems that activists become more enraged as the color of the violater lightens.

  6. I could go on and on, but I think I’ve made my point. It is not whites who are committing these crimes.

    If that’s your point, I’m left to ask: well, what is your point? I don’t know many “lefties” who are interested in distinguishing among the race of the assailants when talking about hate crimes, but keep flogging that straw man if it’s your only entree into defending racial profiling.

  7. Incidentally, if your point is to show that the majority of hate crimes committed against South Asians are perpetrated by Blacks, you might want to rely on more than a report whose very purpose is to recount only those incidents where the assailants were Black.

    Talk about sampling bias.

  8. I am an African American male married to an Asian woman with two beautiful daughters. We have been married for 10 years. I want to share my own opinions.

    Recently I just attended a wedding of a black woman to an Asian man. It was Beautiful!

    People can live together in harmony, but Often times the poor is scapegoated and the rich powerful and obfuscators go without penalty.

    Its a sad commentary to the world when the poor must become predators to the poor to survive in a society. As conflict rages in Iraq, families are uprooted and devastated while the rich, and powerful gain ground by more destruction, be it in, Korea, The Middle east, or Latin America.

    It is no mystery why the people turn inward and become participants in their own demise.

    The poor people have no recourse, and the Palestians die, the africans die, the Latino’s die, the Arabs die, the Asians die, everyone suffers for the abuse inflicted for money, and power. Except those who promulgate death and have wealth already.